I think about this phrase a lot for my son. My job as his parent is to create an environment that can help him grow and thrive- to feed the soil not the plant. I don’t need to worry about every little thing, or react to every small daily incident, or worry worry worry about how his childhood is going, as long as I remember to feed the soil around my sweet little one. He needs to be surrounded by people who love him, books, toys that interest and challenge him, a variety of people, nature, and new experiences.
The same thing goes for my sobriety. I don’t need to worry about it so much anymore, as it has pretty much become second nature for me not to drink, at least most of the time. I still need to feed the soil regularly to stay fully committed to this path in life. This means reading sober blogs to hear about other people’s struggles and triumphs, reading uplifting materials (even just a few good quotes can do the trick), and spending time with positive people who help me feel good about life. I need to travel every so often to widen my perspective, to interact with people who challenge me, and to learn about new ideas. I need to write. I need fresh air, good food and exercise. I need hugs- so many hugs! All of these things feed the soil of my sobriety so that it can continue to grow and thrive. These things are important for everyone, but particularly for us sensitive-alcoholic types. I think many alcoholics are highly sensitive people, but that is a post for another day.
The opposite is also true. If I surround myself with downers and heavy drinkers, and don’t do the things that I need to stay healthy, then my sobriety will wither away.
Remember to be aware of what you are feeding your soil, is what I am saying. I will keep working on mine right alongside you.
6 thoughts on “Feed the Soil”
I love this, so very very true!
As a serial plant killer, this made me giggle. I love the notion though of our sobriety needing that kind of nurturing and it growing slowly, incrementally, before our very eyes if we give it the care it deserves… Great post Jen x
Excellent post…great perspective and thoughts. I will lean on the image of tending my sobriety .
Great post and very timely for me. So happy to have read it today. My soil still has quite a bit of fear, which easily absorbs the least amount of fertilizer and takes over my mind. Will have to weed more carefully……oh wait. I feel a post coming on!
What a perfect explanation for the ongoing work to be done. As one who can easily become complacent, your words are especially appreciated.