Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts

I am getting better at taking care of myself.

My baby steps are paying off in small but good ways. I am treating myself better than I have… maybe ever? It is shocking to me that I treated myself so shitty now that I have a bit of clarity through sobriety. I didn’t think I was at the time, but I was.

I was doing the best I could then. Luckily, I know better now.

I am only doing simple things to take care of myself, but when repeated daily they have the power to make me feel pretty damn good. Eating healthy and delicious food, getting exercise, looking nice everyday instead of wearing yoga pants, praying, writing, taking some time to myself, etc. …

It all adds up. Self-care is greater than the sum of its parts.

I never knew!

But… I know now, right?

I am trying not to worry about doing it perfectly, either. It is okay to miss a day of exercise, for example, if that is what I need to do to take care of myself. It is NOT okay, however, to make excuses all the time because I am being lazy. Balance, balance, balance. What a nice word. I thought my word of 2014 was surrender, but maybe it is really balance. Maybe it is BOTH.

I am not allowed to talk in a mean way to myself, either. That is not allowed in my new balance-y life.

I just shut those negative thoughts right out of my head, and DO something instead.

Baby steps, baby. Just keep taking them.

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14 thoughts on “Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts

  1. We treated ourselves shittily because we thought we were shitty. Cause and effect, sort of. I thought I was worthless, so what’s the point? Hell, I stopped bathing at the end there. couldn’t get my sorry butt into a shower because I didn’t think it mattered any more. So in treatment, one of the big things that was done was self-care.

    Glad you are being gentle on yourself. We need that, especially early on. And it doesn’t hurt to practice it later on too ๐Ÿ™‚

    Keep at those baby steps!

    Paul

  2. Yes!! Time has to pass.. the more time sober the more we start to benefit from the accumulated small positive changes .. and treatsโ€ฆ great stuff xxxx

  3. Oh boy, did I need to read this post. I have been sliding backwards in terms of taking care of myself… baby steps in the wrong direction. This is just the kick in the pants I need to get back on track. Even if it’s one small thing each day, I can make that tweak to start heading in the right direction!

    Thanks for this post!

  4. Yes, balance is a beautiful word. A gentle, calm, reflective word, worth holding in our minds. The gentle words can have such power to keep at bay all the nasty, biting, self-loathing feelings – if we focus on them.

    I like your approach to shutting negative thoughts right out of your head. It reminded me of this old Bob Newhart sketch which I have seen recommended elsewhere as a good way of dealing with that ‘itty bitty shitty committee’. Plus it always makes me laugh!

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